Tonight I went to Petco to get some Nature's Miracle, a doggy stain and odor remover for puppy accidents that works really well.
I get the 24 oz spray bottle and the multi-gallon jug. It's heavy. I carry everything up to the cash register and there's a line. In front of me is a woman a little older than me. On a leash she has what looks like a shepherd/collie mix. She turns to look at me and smiles in that nice way midwesterners do. She sees my Nature's Miracle 3 million gallon jug in my arms and she says, "Oh! Do you have a puppy at home? What kind of dog do you have?" I just look at her, unsure how to answer. I smile and stammer, "yes I have a poodle mix at home. She's 10 weeks." I try to enhance my smile, curl the edges of my mouth up a little and I manage a small laugh, "it's so much fun!"
It's a lie. A huge big-ass lie. The stain/odor remover isn't for a puppy, I don't have any pets. The stain/odor remover is for my kid. My almost 9 year old kid.
Hello, my name Lori and my son Matthew is 4 and has Asperbergers. He was not diagnosed by a MD, but by the school district. I knew something was different with Matt when he was 10 months old. He has been getting services from the county and school district for about 1 year now. I feel like I need to vent because I am so confused and frustrated about all of this. I feel like I have no control over my son and feel like there is no one to help me. I see myself getting soooo frustrated with my son and I feel so angry that this is happening to my family. At the same time, I feel so mad at myself for feeling this way since I have such a healthy fun loving boy. I feel so lost and depressed. I have trouble sleeping at night because my wheels are constantly spinning about what to do and how to help my son. I would love some advice about what to do.
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Lil A is now six, and I think he is going through a growth spurt. More like a maturity spurt. His fuse all of a sudden has gotten super short.
"No, I do not want meat, WAAAAH!" Things that bothered him before now completely set him off. I feel like I have a teenage girl that has just broken up with her boyfriend and everything makes her sob.
When he cried over the lack of drawing paper at church my husband looked at me, confused.
"Its hormones." I said.
Confused face turned to frightened face.
"Growth spurt hormones."
Frightened face softened, slightly. He squinted at me.
"Well, thats what I am going to call it."
Maybe it is the same cries as before, but they are bothering me more than before? It just seems more amplified. At least he can tell us more.
In one week I will be attending Lala's IEP. Yesterday I found out that my husband will not be able to attend because of a complicated work issue. (I agree with him and understand but I am not a happy camper.) I am the sensitive one and he is the rock. I am getting teary-eyed just typing this. "I am stronger then I think I am." (Repeat infinitely many times to myself.)
Anyhow, I requested a copy of the report and received it earlier this week. I did not get the speech therapist or occupational therapist reports. Even though Lala has made so much progress over the year she is still not where her age group should be. I shouldn't be surprised, but I guess I was hoping for a miracle (not that I am giving up on that idea.) Will she be promoted to Kindergarten? Will they retain her? Will the district be able to provide a structured environment and teacher? I don't know the answers, but I have to put my trust in God. Otherwise, I will drive myself crazy.
WHEN MY SON WAS BORN, IN MY EYES HE WAS PERFECT LITTLE BOY. HE STARTED WALKING AT 12 MONTH OLD, HE WAS SAYING FEW WORDS BY THE TIME HE WAS 15 MONTH OLD. WHEN HE WAS ABOUT 3, PEOPLE COULDN'T UNDERSTAND WHAT HE WAS SAYING, HE WAS AFRAID OF TOYS WITH NOISES, HAD TO TAKE BUTTERIES OUT, HE DIDN'T SLEEP FIRST TWO YEARS, EXCEPT FOR ROCKING HIM ALL THE TIME. WAS VERY AFRAID OF PEOPLE YELLING, LOUD NOISES, KIDS BEING AGGRESSIVE, DIDN'T USE THE BATHROOM UNTIL HE WAS ALMOST FIVE. THE PEDIATRICIAN WOULD SAY, ;THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HIM'. WHEN WE WHERE AT THE PLAY GROUND ONE DAY, THERE WAS LADY WITH HER CHILD, WATCHING MY SON BEING AFRAID TO GET CLOSE TO OTHER KIDS, SHE SAID, ;YOUR SON WILL HAVE A HARD TIME IN SCHOOL, I WAS IN SHOCK AND VERY ANGRY AT HER SAYING THIS TO ME. IT BECAME VERY OBVIOUS, THAT SHE WAS RIGHT, BY THE 3 GRADE. DON'T LISTEN TO OTHERS SAYING THERE IS NOTHING WRONG, BELIEF IN YOUR INSTINCT, EVEN WHEN YOUR HUSBAND OR PARTNER WILL BE IN DENIAL, YOU DO YOUR OWN INVESTIGATION, FIND THE RIGHT DOCTOR. FORGET ABOUT YOUR BELIEFS, YOUR FEARS, WHEN IT COMES TO GIVING YOUR CHILD MEDICATION, BECAUSE SOME TIMES THERE IS NO OTHER CHOICE.
Last week I went to a support group of parents with disabled children. It was awesome! I learned so much. Even though we all had children at different levels, we all shared a common thread. We all knew how it felt when we found out about are children. We all knew all the feelings and emotions that we have gone through and will go through on this journey. We all wanted the best for our children. We all wanted to help each other the best way we knew how. It was very powerful!
I know that God gave me what I can handle. I didn't always feel like this, but over time I have finally believed it. I know that if He brought me to it, then He will see me through it. I know that I am stronger than I think I am. I also know that I will be a better Mom to Lala and her brother.
Submitted by Darrius' Mom on Fri, 05/04/2012 - 00:38
Darrius was the best little eater when he was a baby. Since the first time he breast fed it was smooth sailing, and when he went to solids I made all his food. He ate carrots, peas, grean beans, sweet potatoes, apple, pear, peach etc.
All that changed around 18 months approx., same time the language he had dissapeared, and Darrius started tuning us out periodically.
Around 24 months I gave him the dreaded "Chicken Nugget". Now that it's a flippin food group, I wish I never had.
I can't get him to eat vegetables. Period. Besides a chicken nugget, I can't get him to eat meat. Period. He will eat some fruit though, thank god:).
I have tried everything, gone to workshops that teach ABA methods, disguise foods, bribe him, feed him the same thing at multiple meals, nothing has been really effective.
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