It has been brought to my attention, that though signed up for 1/2 day school, 4 days a week this fall, the twins are probably going to need all day school there....and this thought just petrifies me. I am a stay home mom, have been for all my kids till kindergarten time...the thought of the twins being gone all day, is just almost unbearable. Has anyone else felt this way or am I just a paranoid wimpy mom? I know we plan to take the kids up to school a couple times a week before fall, so they can toddle around the classroom and play on the playground, but the thought of leaving them all day just is the last thing I want to do. Yet, I know that if they really need it, I will have to let them go. If they weren't special needs kids, they would be home with me till they were 6 and starting kindergarten, august birthdays. I guess we will have to wait and see. They will start out the 1/2 days, but therapists and school say that I should be prepared for the whole day experience to get brought up a few weeks into school. I almost can not breathe when I think about it.
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Remember Abby YOURE the
Remember Abby YOURE the boss. What mama says goes. Those therapists work for you honey. I know coz I fired one one time lol. If you're not comfortable with all day tell them half a day for now. My son doesnt attend school. We checked it out and weren't comfortable with what we saw. The school was fine for a "normal" child but not for ours. YOU DECIDE.
OMG, Abby, I think you are
OMG, Abby, I think you are so lucky to be offered full day. I had to fight the school district for a YEAR, with LAWYERS, because we needed more than the paltry 12 hour preschool week they were offering Wyatt. But I know what you mean. Sometimes it is better for kids that little, or kids with certain issues, to be schooled at home for a little longer.
You can always try to work up to the full day with progress reports and compromises. The first three months are going to fly by anyway. There are so many holidays in there, too. What I would do is put your kids in for the 1/2 day and then say you don't want to have the meeting until the end of September (in other words, see if you can postpone the meeting). Then, see if the twins are ready for more of a 3/4 day. Try increasing things by just 30 minutes or an hour. Try asking for a therapist to be sent to your home for a number of hours per week (they probably won't like that, but you never know). If the kids seem to be making great progress, you might want to just go for the full day. You might want to hold out on the full day until the spring semester.
this helps, thank you I
this helps, thank you I sense your excitement for us, and it helps me see that it is a luxary offer...I like your idea of spring...I will keep ya all posted
Is it because they're so
Is it because they're so little? In our case it was a safety issue. The schools here arent fenced which is ridiculous ugh! And there were several issues, all safety. Frankly when you have a kid that cant talk they are so vulnerable one of my biggest fears is molestation...and I dont wanta have to kill somebody! What is scareing you?
It is a lot because they are
It is a lot because they are so young, and they can not talk and tell me what might be going on there, if anything is wrong or someone makes them scared. I have just never put little people under kindergarten age in a school or daycare setting unless I worked there. When Liana was 2 and Joseph 5, I worked at a daycare, but I was one room away from Liana and two doors away from Joseph's room once he was done with 1/2 day kindergarten. It's just going to be a whole new experience to have three year olds in some building far from my home without me for several hours a day. I do not want them more behind than they already are. I have accepted that they need to go for the learning and the social, but I do not think I will be able to do the full day program if they ask us to. I will remember I am boss, though, so thanks for that confidence booster. The other option could be to have the 1/2 day program at the special school district and then try to afford private therapy at home some afternoons, or at the Knights of Columbus, which medicaid will cover...so I have options besides full day school.
I can not believe that the schools are not fenced there, Cindy, that is so unacceptable. I would do the same as you and keep them home if that were the case here. If I had my own Marcel, I would keep him home as long as the law would allow me too, and fight them if they tried to make me put him in school. I totally understand why you keep him with you at home where you know he is safe.
Will the school allow you to
Will the school allow you to volunteer?
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I think me being around them
I think me being around them will make it worse for them....The twins both seem to do more when I am not involved... I seem to bring out the codependancy more. When their dad takes them to testing, they do more of the activities then when I go...so I think I need to make a clean break for schooling and not volunteer. I may be able to do it down the road, once they are settled into a routine with school. They have separate classrooms, and this is good too, give them a chance to shine on their own.
I think you are right on
I think you are right on this Abby....When Trin was at her worst...and even NOW to some degree...Seeing me at school would undo her. All out fits could occur. After all...school is NOT where we are supposed to be. They associate us with HOME. This past school year, I visited a few times but only after repeating numerous times to Trin that I would be coming by to see her. I always asked if she minded if I come to the school for a visit. As long as she expeced me, all went ok. The problems came in when I had to go for another grandchild and ACCIDENTALLY ran into her. I was sooooooo careful if I had to make an unannounced visit. Actually hid a time or two from her. I am glad you have these options...you can weigh them and decide what is best for you and the twins.....