Hi All!

I'm new here. I have been dealing with all this stuff for the past 11 years.  My oldest is 13 now and he fully came to live with his Dad and I when he was 2. Prior to that he was living with his bio-mom. So there are alot of questions that can't be answered because she has disappeared. Anyway, I also have a 10 year old boy-Austyn, and a 5 year old girl-Lilly. They have no problems. My oldest Josh is the one with ODD, PDD, ADHD and anger management issues etc..... It seems like our whole family life circles around Josh. But when we try to do stuff as a whole family all goes to hell in a handbasket. A part of me feels like a failure because the younger two are in the midst of all this and its not fair to them. As for Josh, between him getting kicked out of school and then every special school except one, and being on probation, and him involving children and youth services every time I turn around and him being placed in different places outside of our home, I am losing my mind! Anyone else ever deal with this kind of thing? The system keeps taking him away and putting him in residental treatment facilities. This is the second time. What have you done to deal and what have you done to prevent this? I feel at a loss because everytime I turn around the system is usurping our parental rights and taking over. What am I doing wrong? How can I fix this? Please help. Just please don't judge me for being in this position. I love my children with all my heart.