Today my angel woke up and ran through to my room, she threw herself on top of me and repeated the words "mum, mum, mum" over and over, even when i asked her repeatedly what is it, or what, or yes she just kept saying the same thing.  She started to head butt me on the arm and she would left her leg into the air and let it clash down on top of me, i told her no, she squirmed and squealed, i said go back to your room, she refused and quickly got off the bed, she stood staring at me, shouted "i hate you" and ran to her brothers room, she pushed open his door and shouted "get downstairs now" at him.

He refused, she shouted again and again and added some screaming into the demands...  he roared at her to get out and shut up, she screamed in an enormous loud voice and ran off downstairs, she opened the stairgate which allowed our big german shepherd dog to run past her and upstairs.  She shouted at my poor dog that it was bad for running away.

Later on we decided to try and break the screaming cycle by going out, we decided to drve to Carlisle which is aprox. 30 minutes away.  On route we went to the sweet shop to get some sweets to keep everyone going on the journey, i shared out the sweets then gave everyone a mint to suck.  Shortly afterwards she asked me if there was anything to drink i told her there was water, she told us she hated water and that she was thirsty and started kicking the back of my seat and whined on and on.  I gave her some chewing gum to chew on and that kept her quiet for a short time.  We had a drive around then drove back the way to Lockerbie, we decided to pop into Tesco to use the toilets but no-one needed, so we bought some snacks and a bottle of milkshake for everyone to drink, we ate our snacks and drank our milk before driving home.  On the way home she was quiet because she still had some snack to eat and milk to drink.

Dinner tonight for my angel was one chopped banana, she wouldn't eat anything else, refused all other foods.  It was time to calculate my childrens award charts so i got them off the fridge where i keep them so as to be a close visual reminder for them, she only earned £1.20 this week due to the amount of time outs she has had, whereas my boys earned a bit more than this.  I claculated them all and told each child what he/she had earned and my boys were happy enough with that, she on the other hand went ballistic and threw herself on the floor and screamed and screamed.  I asked her why she was screaming and when she calmed down a bit she said "i wanted to have the most money".  I said you need to try harder and stop having tantrums, you need to do what mummy and daddy asks you to do and not refuse all the time.

 She started screaming again, i told her to go and get 3 new charts so that we can start new ones, she refused and threw herself nto the floor screaming again.  I told her to go to her room, i said "go to timeout" she ignored me, i repeated this twice more.  she refused and carried on screaming.  I said to her "if you don;t go to your room now i will rip this chart up and you will get no money" she sat there screaming and refusing to go, i said "you don't do what you;re told - you're getting nothing and i ripped it up.

she went mental so hubby took her up to her room she was screaming and shouting abuse the whole time. He sat her on her bed and left.  10 minutes later she was still screaming and shouting abuse at us, so he went back up and forced her pyjamas on, pulled her covers back and told her it was bed time(she had already been given 2mg of melatonin 45 minutes previous). He told her to stop the screaming and go to sleep.  He came straight downstairs and she is still screaming 15 minutes later, we ignored this and turned up the tv so as to block out her noise, 20 minutes later and so far all is quiet!

Today has been very difficult, she has demanded all day and refused to comply with anything or do anything she has been asked, when i have suggested things we do together she has screamed no at me.  She says things like i can't put my rubbish in the bin because i have sore legs etc.

I'ts getting me down, she is 7 and a half and her behaviour isn't getting any better, we are following a behaviour modification plan given to us by her psychologist but we cannot break the cycle yet.