Inventor wrote, “In school aspie is called nerd, at work, the boss.” This quote is from a discussion on WrongPlanet.net about business owners with Autism and Asperger’s. As it turns out, for some, “Nerds Rule!” is not just a saying.
Mary, my social networking guru, sparked this post (I’ll get to her in a minute.) when she sent me this link: Autistic Traits: A Plus for Many Careers (I like the punny humor in that.) where Lisa Jo Rudy wrote, “But autistic people aren’t typical. And neither are the careers for which they’re ALREADY good candidates.”
Then I remembered the episode of House I watched where the “radical” doctor with long hair, a guitar, and tattoos was not hired because, to paraphrase House, the only radical kids were the ones who spent hours in the library studying while the popular kids were out partying.
You have to grow a tough skin to put up with the ostracizing from other kids. Now, I have friends because high school is long gone. I also have a business and I’m the boss. Why? I invented The Cozy Calm Weighted Blanket.
I’m not unusual. Evidently, it’s common enough for people with autism and Asperger’s to be self-employed or own businesses. I have no stats for this, just the accumulated knowledge from being on a lot of Asperger’s and Autism boards for adults–something I noticed.
From what I have read, people on the autistic spectrum become self-employed so they can work alone. Another reason is so they can work on their passion. What happens when you focus on your passion and do it for a living? You get very, very good at it. Then what happens? A lot can happen like getting highly sought-after, the product or knowledge becomes in demand (as in my case), or, well, who knows. The sky is the limit as the saying goes. Or, one can keep the business small, work alone, and charge a lot.
For 20 years, I chose the latter, but now, I’m growing the business to include others. It’s forcing me to grow and learn some of the tools of popular kids, like how to manage people. Mary is our social networking person. (Yes, there are many of us in this company now.) To be a good manager, I decided I would use my Aspie principle, “Follow Your Passion.” So, I decided, in a way I have known for a long time, that the way to be a good manager is to nurture other people’s passions.
What’s her passion? I really don’t know, but she’s following it because her husband and her son are using The Cozy Calm Weighted Blanket and she’s sleeping so she demanded the job of telling everybody that she is ecstatic because she is alert and AWAKE! She shouldn’t be so perky for someone who is promoting a product that puts people to sleep. (lame joke)
I had it in the budget, so I hired her. She is now our official Online Communications Specialist. I agreed to it because her heart tells her that she wants to help people; she’s enthusiastic about her work because she loves what she does; and, well, she’s a really good person. So, I think (and feel), “Hey, follow your passion wherever it may lead you!”
I encourage you to meet her on Twitter or on Facebook. Believe me, she would love to talk with you. I do too! I just never know what to say, which is the social awkwardness setting in. So, Mary is doing it. It’s really funny. I ask her, “I am really stoked about x, so can I tell people about that?” She says, “Heck, yeah. Don’t worry, I’ll tell everybody what you’re so excited about.”
She speaks for me; she speaks for herself. The point I am trying to get across is do what you are good at. I never thought I would be good at manufacturing and retailing, but it has worked because I love it. I just had this idea in my head that I wanted everybody in America and beyond to feel as good as I did when my final prototype of my invention was made. Just ask Mary; she’ll tell you.
Follow your passion.
Parents, remove every barrier to your kids can follow their passions, even if it seems weird or unconventional to you. After all, the end goal is happiness, not money, but with the first, the other usually follows, so don’t worry.





Those articles are
Those articles are definitely worth reading, HOWEVER:
I've found in my own life that my Asperger's lack of social skills makes me particularly bad at "boss" positions, or in fact, any position where I need to delegate tasks. I have a hard time herding cats (programmers) because I can't tell when people are lying to me.
Having said that- self-employment is different. That works.
Maybe I just need to find myself a Mary.
Seebert, I find it almost
Seebert,
I find it almost impossible to figure out when people are lying unless I know the person really well such as one of my children.
What comes into play that I don't "get" automatically is when people have this gray area as to what a lie is. A lie is not necessarily a lie, rather, it's something that I'm supposed to "pick up on," and people can get annoyed with me when I don't realize "what's going on."
In response to my own deficiency in this area, I have turned into a good listener and question-asker, almost as if I am a journalist uncovering fact and feeling. I will directly ask questions that lead to what they really mean, how they feel, what they suggest, what is bothering them, why they do what they do, and others. I ask even when I don't need to. The main thing is that I care to know because, yes, it's good for the company, but I also want to work with long-term, reliable, good people.
I also tell when I don't need to. I look for the good, and when I see it, I say so because people like knowing when they have done something well--as I do.
Eileen
Cozy Calm Weighted Blankets
www.cozycalm.com
www.eileenparker.com
How have you kept away from
How have you kept away from being scammed in the market? For instance, one common scam out there right now that manufacturers have been falling prey to is the Wall-Mart scam; one retailer blesses you with a large order, so large that it dwarfs the rest of your business. You hire more workers, open a second factory, in hopes of fulfilling that order, and you succeed. Many more orders come in. Then one day, the retailer's goons pay you a visit: They think that to continue to bless your product with shelf space, you now need to cut the price to 1/100th what you were charging. Loosing this customer would kill your business- so you're forced to lay off your long term reliable people here in the states, and find some third world country where you can manufacture your blankets at lower quality for a lower price.
This is exactly what happened to Ohio Arts- makers of the Etch-A-Sketch, when Wall-Mart suddenly told them they needed to hit a $1/unit manufacturing cost. I've seen similar things happen in other businesses.